Weddings

Outdated Wedding Traditions or Not?

As time goes by, traditions change. This is the case with weddings. Today, many couples are forgoing rituals that were previously considered traditions not to be skipped. Some examples of potentially outdated wedding traditions are listed below. Do you agree that they’re now outdated?

Asking for Permission

These days, some prospective grooms are forgoing the tradition of asking the bride’s father for permission. Brides are no longer considered the property of their father’s, so they decide who to marry. This is why some consider this one of the potentially outdated wedding traditions.

The Bride’s Family Footing the Bill

Many couples are marrying later in life and footing at least part of the bill for the wedding themselves, if not the whole thing. This gives them more of a say and lets them plan a more personalized wedding. They can forego any traditions they consider to be outdated wedding traditions.

Long, White Wedding Dresses

Brides are no longer restricted to wearing long, white wedding dresses. It’s becoming more common for them to wear shorter dresses, off-white or even colored dresses, or pantsuits. Some brides even wear multiple dresses throughout different stages of the event.

Long, White Wedding Veils

These days brides wear a long veil, a short one, some other type of headpiece, or nothing at all on their head as they get married.

Bridesmaids and Groomsmen

There are a couple ways in which the tradition of brides having bridesmaids and grooms having groomsmen is changing and becoming outdated. First, some couples now marry without any attendants at all. Second, some brides choose to have both men and women stand up with them during their wedding. The same is true with some grooms. This could mean a best woman and a man of honor, for example.

Matching Outfits for Bridesmaids

The bridal party doesn’t all have to wear the same dress or even the same color of dress. Some brides give their ladies a color and let them choose their own dress. Other brides let the women choose from a number of coordinating dress styles or have them choose the same dress but in a variety of different colors.

The Father-of-the-Bride Walking Her Down the Aisle

Some couples are now deciding that the bride’s father walking her down the aisle is one of those outdated wedding traditions. This is because the bride isn’t the property of her father, so she doesn’t need him to give her away. She may have her parents walk down the aisle in front of her or choose someone else to walk down the aisle with her.

Walking Down the Aisle to the Bridal Chorus

Although this is one of the more common options for walking down the aisle, some couples are customizing their wedding and choosing a different song for this purpose. You may have limited choices if you marry in a house of worship, but otherwise, you can opt for the song of your choice.

Exchanging Traditional Vows

Although not all religious ceremonies may allow it, couples are starting to choose the vows they use during their wedding ceremony. These may be vows they’ve found written somewhere or ones they’ve written themselves. This helps personalize the ceremony.

Not Seeing the Bride Before the Ceremony

It’s a lot easier to take some of the photos before the ceremony in a “first look” than to leave everything until after the ceremony. This helps the happy couple get to their reception a little more quickly and spend more time with their friends and family. The couple can still spend the night apart and have their first looks at each other be during the photo shoot rather than the ceremony itself.

A Diamond Engagement Ring

Some brides prefer a colored stone, and this is what they should get for a ring they’ll be wearing for a long time. There’s no reason why an engagement ring has to be a diamond. This is one of those outdated wedding traditions that came about due to the diamond industry’s advertising campaigns.

Having a Wedding Cake

If wedding cakes aren’t your thing, don’t worry. You aren’t alone. Many couples are opting for other dessert alternatives, including pies, cookies, and donuts. Some couples even opt for savory options, like a “cake” made out of wheels of cheese.

Smashing Cake Into Each Other’s Faces

It’s pretty obvious why couples may be happy to skip this tradition. Who wants to worry about messing up their hair, makeup, or clothes with cake? Couples often do a more restrained version of this tradition or skip it altogether.

Father/Daughter and Mother/Son Dances

Some couples view this as a nice tradition, while others would rather skip it. This may be more likely to be the case when not all of the parents of the couple are present for the wedding.

Bouquet and Garter Tosses

Let’s face it, your single friends and family members often don’t want to be called out for these outdated wedding traditions. Nobody really believes that catching one of these items leads to them being the next to get married. Let your guests spend more time socializing and dancing instead. If you don’t want to keep your bouquet, give each single friend one flower from your bouquet or present it to the lady who’s been married the longest .